of conversation does
not consist in exhibiting your own superior knowledge on matters of
consequence, but in enlarging, improving and correcting the information
you possess by the authority of others.—Sir Walter Scott.
three things in speech
that ought to be considered before some things are spoken—the manner,
place and the time. —Southey.
of tiring is to say
everything that can be said on the subject.—Voltaire.
little and well if you
wish to be considered as possessing merit.—From the French.
men think, the more
- He who
sedulously attends, pointedly
asks, calmly speaks, coolly answers, and ceases when he has no more to
say, is in possession of some of the best requisites of man.—Lavater.
such as out of cunning
hear all and talk little, be sure to talk less; or if you must talk,
to say the right thing
in the right place, but, far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the
wrong thing at the tempting moment.—G.A. Sala.
are in the company of
sensible men, we ought to be doubly cautious of talking too much, lest
we lose two good things, their good opinion and our own improvement;
what we have to say we know, but what they have to say we know
any one by the button
or the hand in order to be heard out; for if people are unwilling to
you, you had better hold your tongue than them.—Chesterfield.
which makes us find
so few people who appear reasonable and agreeable in conversation is,
there is scarcely any one who does not think more of what he is about
say than of answering precisely what is said to him.—La Rochefoucauld.
ingredient in conversation
is truth, the next good sense, the third good humor, and the fourth
- It is
secret known but to
few, yet of no small use in the conduct of life, that when you fall
a man's conversation, the first thing you should consider is, whether
has a greater inclination to hear you, or that you should hear
- In my
whole life I have only
known ten or twelve persons with whom it was pleasant to speak—i.e.,
keep to the subject, do not repeat themselves, and do not talk of
men who do not listen to their own voice, who are cultivated enough not
to lose themselves in commonplaces, and, lastly, who possess tact and
taste enough not to elevate their own persons above their
speaking well, speaking
easily, speaking justly and speaking seasonably: It is offending
the last, to speak of entertainments before the indigent; of sound
and health before the infirm; of houses and lands before one who has
so much as a dwelling; in a word, to speak of your prosperity before
miserable; this conversation is cruel, and the comparison which
arises in them betwixt their condition and yours is excruciating.—La
cannot converse, they
talk to themselves only.—A. Bronson Alcott.
- Many can
argue, not many converse.—A.
extreme pleasure we take
in talking of ourselves should make us fear that we give very little to
those who listen to us.—La Rochefoucauld.