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careful, because gilt is useful as a motivator to change, but is very destructive
and useless if paralyzes the person with a sense of unlovability or unworthiness.
Loved somebody and having someone who loves you is the greatest feeling
in your life. If we are strong enough to forgive and generous to rejoice
in another's happiness and wise enough to know how to keep what we have,
then we can achieve a fulfillment that no other living creature, except
human beings, will ever know.
When a man is dating a woman
he is on the hunt and he is completely focused on winning over the woman
he cares for. He will do whatever it takes to be successful. He will wrapped
his arm around her when they walked together, look at her and noticed her
beauty, held her in public, hugged her, stroked her hair and he will do
all sorts of little things for her. He will do all that because he was
not allowed to touch her intimately.
Once he is given the right
to touch a woman intimately, his impulse for non sexual touch is gone.
He touches her when he wants to have sex and she usually feel used. Having
won her, he relaxes and he touch her only when he wants sexual contact,
because the desire for sexual contact is much stronger than for non sexual.
After the intense pleasures of sexual touch his impulse for affectionate
touching may wane and she can't understand that. On the other hand women
have
need for non sexual touch and they may never lose strong need to be held
and hugged.
Every woman needs compliments
and lots of reassurance that he still finds her appealing.
Woman wants to share her
losses and victories and many little things in life with her partner, just
to feel close and important to him. Give her ten minutes of your undivided
attention, let her tell you about her day. Share with her news from your
own day. Women experience greater intimacy by sharing feelings and thoughts.
It is very easy to misinterpret
the motives of our partners and begin to feel they don't love us like before.
When you learn to interpret his or her behavior correctly, with a little
work together, your romantic feelings can be rekindled, and once more you
can find man or woman with whom you fell in love. |
