following rules, published long time ago as a receipt for that beauty
of expression so much more lasting and attractive than mere beauty of
feature, were written originally for the guidance of woman, but they
are equally applicable to the needs of man.
"1. Learn to govern yourself and to be
gentle and patient.
"2. Guard your temper, especially in seasons
irritation, and trouble, and soften it by a sense of your own
shortcomings and errors.
"3. Never speak or act in anger.
"4. Remember that, valuable as is the gift
of speech, silence is often
"5. Do not expect too much from others, but
forbear and forgive, as
you desire forbearance and forgiveness yourself.
"6. Never retort a sharp or angry word. It
is the second word that
makes the quarrel.
"7. Beware of the first disagreement.
"8. Learn to speak in a gentle tone of voice.
"9. Learn to say kind and pleasant things
when opportunity offers.
"10. Study the characters of those with whom
you come in contact, and
sympathize with them in all their troubles, however small.
"11. Do not neglect little things if they
can affect the comfort of
others in the smallest degree.
"12. Avoid moods, and pets, and fits of
"13. Learn to deny yourself and prefer
"14. Beware of meddlers and tale-bearers.
"15. Never charge a bad motive, if a good
one is conceivable."
Courtesy, charity and love are one, and,
when all good deeds are done
the warning comes: "If ye have not charity" all is naught. Therefore:
attractive kind of grace,
assurance given by looks,
Continual comfort in a face,
lineaments of gospel-books."
Do ye all things courteously, founding
precept and practice upon that
old rule, the Golden Rule, which is the Alpha and the Omega of all
good manners and the very Essence of all Etiquette.